We so often vowel our undying love, we promise to always love that person through the good and the bad. But I ask myself today; just how much do we follow through on our word? As a result, romantic hopes are often replaced with disappointment in the home, but it doesn’t have to stay that way.
We tend to eventually get bored in our relationships, we distance ourselves from our partners and the magic that once had brought two separate souls to unite has now disappeared and two people who are no willing to work at keeping that magic walk two separate roads once again.
Why is it so hard to put our faith in that person, why is it so hard to trust, why are you at the point of giving up when there is always hope and even more so when there is still love? If you are not married as of yet and you are going through this stage, ask yourselves how you will make it through the hard times in marriage. You are with a person for the rest of your life, you going to see them day in and day out, you going to get so mad at one another some days, you going to see one another at their worst stages, your sex life will not always be great and there may not always be adventures but what counts is that before you even get married or even if you are already that you remember what magic brought you together, what it felt like, remind yourself just how good it felt to be with or close to that person remember how hard it was to be apart. You need to keep the magic flowing, do small things, little gestures that have meaning and that will have a bigger impact on your loved ones ear and soul.
You need to remember that it’s not always about getting what you feel you deserve but it’s also about giving to your partner what they deserve. Giving them love, supporting them in everything and even at times when you may not think it’s the right thing or waste of money it’s what will at the end of the day make your partner happy, It’s about waking up early to make them breakfast, it’s about listening to them moan when they grumpy, It’s about letting them be who they are, they need to be comfortable with who thy are in front of you. This is a give and take-what you give is what you should get but never really expecting it-Balance is the key.
There is a reason you are at this point, but don’t give up-do what it takes to make it right. Learn to communicate and accept that relationships are not all hunky dory, or that easy but its about taking good with the bad and still making good come of it all because at the end of the day when you think of this all you will realise you cannot live without this person and you love them as they are for who they are as they accept you for who you are and as you are. Let go of any hurt that you may have from this relationship as well as previous relationships and move forward, together united as you will only realise what you had one its gone and that often too late. Don’t put your love in the same box as previous relationships, even if at times there may be something may influence you to feel that way, Every person is unique, every love is unique and every relationship is unique. Don’t always look at the bad but look at the good and create more to appreciate and you will mostly find that there is already so much to appreciate and that person who may make you angry at times and absolutely happy the next is really your everything and you are then incomplete without them, an empty shell so fragile and easily broken.
Love is what gives us strength, it’s what gives us the will.. It what in fact keeps you going!
